“Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.” Karen Kaiser Clark
So you have made this big change in your life. Or it has just happened naturally. Maybe out of a sudden. Maybe it’s a positive change. Maybe not. How to deal with a big change in your life?
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First of all, you need to realize that changes happen. Whether it is starting a new job, getting married, moving to another city (or country) or loosing 10 kg. Remember that big changes are needed when you are stuck. Changes are good if creating new energy and opportunities. Life is too short to stay stuck in one place. Continue reading
Are you a natural born optimist? And first of all, is there such a thing? Can optimism be learned?
Yes, it can! Each of us can learn to become optimistic.
And no. Optimism is not something you were born with. It is a learned behavior (or habit). So this is good news, isn’t it? It means everyone can learn it.
But let’s start from the beginning. Optimism is a belief about the future. Optimists believe the future will be somewhat good, positive. They are obviously aware of difficulties that may occur but this fact doesn’t stop them from thinking positive about the final outcome.
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As mentioned, optimism can be learned. But hey, this doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a process which requires a lot of work and will. First step to success is realizing what the advantages of being optimistic are. Then, you need to assess where you are on your pessimism/optimism scale and start acting.
Let’s go with the benefits. It is no surprise that optimists are believed to succeed in their endeavors faster than their colleagues or friends. They tend to recover faster. They eat healthier. They are happier. They live longer than pessimists. Continue reading
“To fight fear, act. To increase fear – wait, put off, postpone.” – David Joseph Schwartz
We all have fears, it’s nothing unusual. Some deal with them easily, some don’t. Fear will always be there, actually it’s essential to stimulate us in all what we do. Living a fearless life is a bit unrealistic, so let’s better focus on how to accept and face the fears and then keep moving forward.
Here are six easy steps to fight your fears:
1. Accept the fear.
To work on your fear, you have to first admit you have it. Rejecting the fact that you’re afraid of something (may it be flying, loosing your job or having to publicly speak about your project) will not bring you anywhere. The fear will appear anyway, whether you like it or not. Continue reading
Rome wasn’t built in a day. Your life isn’t going to change overnight.
What you can do is to change your perspective.
Ok, let me get into details as this may sound irrational for some of you.
Changing perspective is changing the way you think about the world around you.
Say, something nasty happened to you, like… you’ve been laid off from work. You’re angry, perhaps even devastated. You don’t see any bright future right now. Everything is sad. World is unfair. Nobody can help you. Your family relies on you. You cannot disappoint them. Now the frustration has grown into a bigger size… Continue reading
Are you always happy with the way things are, with the outcome of your projects, with your looks, or with the way you are progressing in your career? Yes? Excellent! Congrats. You are one of the luckiest people on the Earth :) No? Check out what you can do to start accepting yourself and overcoming perfectionism.
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We cannot change other people or the past. And that is what sometimes makes us mad and frustrated. We unnecessarily stress about things which we cannot change about ourselves either. Meanwhile life happens! And you know what? Life’s too short to wait until things are perfect. Don’t you think?
So how to overcome this life obstacle? How to accept yourself and just enjoy life? Continue reading
“The hardest thing about the road not taken is that you never know where it might have led.” – Lisa Wingate
It is no surprise that everyone struggles with the decision-making process from time to time. If you are trying to:
- choose where you want to live
- decide whether to marry your boyfriend or girlfriend
- decide whether to finish your master or just drop out
- decide which job offer to accept or
- set up your own business,
then you know what we are talking about. Big life decisions scare us. We either avoid the situation where we have to decide on something and we rather pass the decision-making responsibility to someone else or we just go with whichever option, without any careful thinking.
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How to make sound decisions when they are really hard to make? Here are some tips for your consideration: Continue reading
If you’re a night owl you might be tempted to skip this article. You shouldn’t… And here’s why: waking up early will help you accomplish more during the day. It is an illusion that you may achieve just the same results as when you’re up till late. The amount might be the same but the quality won’t be.
So what are the benefits for morning risers?
1. Time to focus. Morning people praise having morning quiet time for such things as organization or planning out their days ahead. It is highly recommended for, say, business owners and managers. By the time your team shows up in the office, you’ll be done with all the main tasks and duties so you can be reachable to people who need you most throughout the day. Before 8 am you won’t be bothered by distractions such as e-mails, phone calls, questions from colleagues. You can focus and eat your “frog”. Continue reading
Sometimes we feel the steps we take towards reaching our goals are not big enough. We are quite demanding and strive for more. More and better. While it’s good to be ambitious, it is also important we set up realistic and reachable goals.
But what does it mean that the goal is realistic? Well, it only means you shouldn’t be planning on becoming a data architect if you’re not computer literate. On the other hand, strive for something more than just a low hanging fruit. If your objectives are easily reachable then you will definitely lose interest in achieving them. You will simply get bored. And then again, obtaining a “piece of cake” will not make you happy and fulfilled. At least not this cake! So be objective and reach out for something that is a challenge for you.